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Disappointment

Disappointment comes in a couple different forms. You might experience this when you find out you aren't starting. Or when you lose a game.

When anything you truly want to happen doesn't, it will leave you feeling sad.

Sadness is uncomfortable. You might know it is ok to feel sad, but it knowing that doesn't make it any more pleasant.

What do you like to do when you feel sad? Some of you might try to cheer yourself up and dismiss the sadness as quickly as it came on.

Others of you might want to be by yourself. Maybe you turn to music or Netflix when you feel sad.

Disappointment is more than feeling sad. It is laced with the belief that this loss, failure, or setback will be permanent. Thinking that way feels terrible! Pretty soon, you start thinking you can't handle feeling disappointed. 

Unfortunately, many of you decide to STOP having goals. You stop getting excited for things because you don't want to feel sad or disappointed if they don't turn out how you expected.

You STOP pursuing your desires. You STOP dreaming big.

You don't pursue a college scholarship. You don't expect to win. You justify performing below your capabilities. 

Instead, you tell yourself you are ok with where you are at.

The mind is very convincing, and can make a case for just about anything. Including being mediocre. Normal. Going with the flow. "Being a kid," whatever that means.

The thing is, you are STILL disappointed. The desire is still in your heart, and you still feel it on occasion. 

Playing small doesn't protect you from feeling disappointed. 

You can handle being disappointed. There is no limit on how many times you can be disappointed. The more curious you become, the less disappointed you will feel when things don't go as planned.

Disappointment is simply a feeling trying to tell you that your expectation isn't going to happen, at least not right now. 

The solution is simple: change your expectation!

You want to know what is more powerful than an expectation? An AGREEMENT. 

AGREE to have your own back - especially when things don't go your way.
AGREE to be flexible - in your methods as well as timing.
AGREE to learn - what is the message?
AGREE to keep trying no matter what.

God's delays are not God's denials.

Let your disappointment strengthen your commitment to the things you desire.

Use it as fuel to drive you instead of proof that you should stop.

You were made for MORE, so go get it!

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